#62: Self-Awareness in Parenting (with Courtney Burg)

“If I was having a bad day and went to my spouse with all my emotions, and they sent me to my room or hit me in response, I would be devastated! But this is exactly what most of us have been trained to do with our children. When my child tantrums now, I look at it as an opportunity to connect and to regulate with her.”

— Courtney Burg

This week I am joined by Courtney Burg AKA Mombojombo, to talk about everything to do with trauma-informed parenting. We touched on boundaries, safety, self-regulation, rewiring your own brain, tantrums, and changing your parenting to reflect the unconditional love of God. Even if you’re not a parent, there’s something in here for you!

Resources mentioned:

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Order Boundaries, by Dr Henry Cloud & Dr John Townsend
Get Courtney’s Breaking Free journaling guide
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