#37: Emotions and what to do with them (with Marc Alan Schelske)
“The economy of intimacy is emotional exchange. If I can’t be present to my emotions I don’t have the capacity to be intimate with anyone. Not myself, not my wife, not my kids and not God.”
“The Wisdom of your Heart” by Marc Alan Schelske has been one of the most important books for me in the last few years. In this interview Marc shared his story with me about being a very performance driven pastor and the effect that had on his family, his church and ultimately his mental and emotional health. We talked about why we have emotions at all, what purpose they serve and how to learn to listen to them.
Resources:
The Wisdom of Your Heart: Discovering the God-Given Purpose and Power of Your Emotions, by Marc Alan Schelske
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Professor, researcher and podcaster Dr. Holly Oxhandler is my guest, talking about the supports that helpers need to keep on helping. Whether we’re talking about parents, therapists, pastors, teachers or literally anyone else who helps, Holly’s research has shown the importance of seeing the divine inside ourselves so that we can connect with the divine in others. Her book, The Soul of the Helper: Seven Stages to Seeing the Sacred Within Yourself So You Can See It in Others, has been very impactful in my life and we unpacked her social work research, what she’s found, and why it works. This is gentle and vulnerable and practical, like all good Puddcasts should be. Get in!